Why Is It So Hard to Let Go of an Ex?

So why is it so hard to get over an ex?

When you’re trying to get over somebody, you’ve got what’s happening in your conscious mind, which is all the logic, for whatever reasons, you’re not with that ex anymore.

Maybe the reason is the person might have cheated, the person was lying, or maybe something like the relationship just wasn’t working for you anymore.

Maybe it was long distance or just something logically that didn’t work for you anymore.

And those things are a little easier to let go of, if you think logically.

You really loved him but it was long distance and it really doesn’t work for you because you want somebody to do things with in real life.

Or if the reason was cheating. Of course, logically, that wouldn’t work for you because if somebody’s cheating or lying, you don’t really have a relationship because it’s based on lies.

But here’s where things get hard…

There’s that emotional side of things…

Where you’re actually attached to that person emotionally. And even though logically, let’s say in the case of cheating and lying, it’s easy to let go of that person. They’ve been cheating and lying on you and maybe you felt that there was something that your intuition was telling you all along…

Or even in the case of this is long distance, intuitively that things just aren’t working out. You want something more.

And here’s where the real problem is.

Subconsciously, you’re attached to that person and this is why it’s so hard to let go. It’s hard, impossible, actually, to resolve all of this emotional stuff with your conscious mind.

So the conscious mind, lets go easily of all the rational, logical stuff, but you really need your subconscious mind to help you process all that emotional stuff.

You can feel it in that attachment that you felt for that person even though it wasn’t working out, even though it was long distance or your schedules weren’t right even if the guy wasn’t, or the girl was, or that the person was cheating on you and lying to you.

You feel the attachment even if there was cheating and lying and you had to leave the relationship that but you’re still attached to what you thought you had.

So it’s hard to logically resolve those things.

Also because logically, you have about seven things that you can hold in your conscious mind that you can use to help resolve your problem. It’s seven things plus or minus two (five on the low side, nine on the high side) that you can to help work out your relationship problems.

Logically that that usually works. But emotionally, you want to start to use the power of your subconscious mind and the millions of bits of information that your subconscious mind takes in every second.

For example, if you look at your hand, your subconscious is not just taking in your hand as a whole, it is taking in every wrinkle and spot on your hand and it’s keeping that in memory. Forever.

Your subconscious mind also keeps every detail about that person in your subconscious memory. Every second that you were observing that person, the superconscious mind was also observing at an insane level of detail.

And so when you solve your problems with your subconscious mind, you have all these events, millions of bits of information that can help you resolve whatever’s happening, emotionally,

It even has more resources, whatever you didn’t see consciously, whatever was below the level of your conscious awareness.

And this is where real problems are resolved, at the subconscious level. The reasons for your break up might not even be about that the person was long distance or that the person didn’t treat you right, or wasn’t available. It might just a conclusion that your conscious mind came up with around this person.

And the real reason why it wasn’t working for you, the real reason why things didn’t work out – the answers may be somewhere in the realm of your subconscious mind.

So this is why hypnosis is great if you have not been able to let go of your ex. By using hypnosis, you can access all the details that your superconscious mind took in what you were relating with that person or what you were sensing even while you weren’t relating. It can use all those feelings that you had, your intuition about the situation.

All of these resources are available to help you resolve the real problem and let go so that you can move on, whether this happened with an ex yesterday, or 20 years ago…

If it has been a while and you are still not able to let go, consider that you may not be able to resolve things just using your conscious mind or you probably would have already done so.

Your subconscious mind can solve whatever was really happening for you. It has all the answers, and it can give them to you in a single session of Accelerated Conversational Hypnosis.

If you’re ready to move on and you want to create space for a new relationship… so that your ex doesn’t come with you to your next relationship…

I’ve had conversations where that hurt and that pain of all that unresolved stuff (that’s usually at the subconscious level) is right there in the conversation, like their ex was sitting with us and was right there in the room.

People can pick up on that past energy because their subconscious picks up that you’re not really over your ex, and there’s no space to create something new you.

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