Can hypnosis help couples as an alternative to couples therapy?
Hypnosis can be a great alternative to couples therapy, especially if one of the partners doesn’t want to go to couples therapy. and one of them is more interested in change than the other.
I was working with a client who came in because because she was arguing with their partner about a specific, recurring conflict.
it is common for couples to have conflicts because from what we know from the research about conflict, two-thirds of conflicts are resolvable.
You and your partner will only resolve one out of three conflicts that you have, according to the research. The other two will be persistent problems that will have no resolution. Some fun, huh Bambi?
My client was having this recurring conflict with her partner and they were getting into arguments that were getting into the realm of being toxic. She was so upset by the last conflict that we met for an online hypnosis session.
This conflict was a huge problem and of course her partner did not come in for the same session, because hypnosis is something that you can do on your own. when you’re experiencing a problem in your relationship.
Most people are familiar with relaxation hypnosis, where you go down a path, go down a set of stairs, ent4er into a garden…
The method I use is something called Accelerated Conversational Hypnosis.
In a resourceful state of hypnosis, my client realized that she had this feeling before… The argument, and the way it made her feel reminded her of how she felt in childhood.
This argument had the same feeling that she had with their parents on a very similar subject matter to what she was arguing with her partner.
Inside of this hypnosis session, she began to realized that that it wasn’t really about the conflict that she was having with her partner, it was really rooted in the conflict that she had with her parents when she was a teenager and she was somehow living it out again.
She was basically experiencing the same argument, on the same subject matter where she felt like she had to defend herself from her partner (just like she had to defend herself against her parents_.
As spoke to me about this Insight that she received when she connected to her subconscious mind, something started to happen with this new information…
Her subconscious started speaking in metaphors, and she saw a cigarette lighter. I started repeating “lighter” back to my client who was in another trance and as I repeated the word “lighter,” she actually started feeling lighter and less stressed about the situation.
She started feeling like it wasn’t as serious as she thought it was because it wasn’t even about the conflict that she was having with her partner. Once she saw that it was actually an unresolved conflict with their parents, she could bring some lightness to how she were feeling about this conflict she were having with her partner.
When I asked her how she felt about the conflict with her partner at the end of the session, she actually started laughing.
After connecting with their subconscious mind and having that subconscious mind work out all of these insights and then integrate it into where she was present day, she came out of hypnosis and when I asked her about the original problem she didn’t see it as a problem anymore.
She felt light and nonchalant about this problem and was confident that it would not be a problem anymore because shd had found a new resource, a new way of thinking about the conflict as she realized that it wasn’t really about her partner.
This is something I noticed with almost all of my clients, that the problem that they come in with, is not what the conscious mind thinks is the problem. The client usually comes in with the symptom, and the real problem is something completely different.
When you connect with the subconscious mind, there’s something else going on below the surface that is the root cause of the problem.
If you think of an iceberg, the conscious mind is dealing with only the tip of the iceberg that’s above water and is in your conscious awareness. Your conscious mind is trying to solve the problem with just that small part of the iceberg that is inside your conscious awareness.
But the answers to the problem are deep below the surface of the iceberg, below the water line in the subconscious and what we find is almost all of the time is that the actual problem just like in this client’s case was something totally different than what the conscious mind had access to.
This is why when you’re having problems with a spouse or a partner that has been around a while, and you haven’t been able to solve, the problem may not be able to be solved with your conscious mind.
Secondly, the problem you’re trying to solve is not the actual problem, it is just a symptom of something deeper that is going on in the subconscious mind, where the root of the problem exists.
This is why hypnosis helps.
Often the problem is more painful to one partner than it is to the other.
Often one partner is more motivated to change than the other .
Hypnosis is like couple’s therapy when only one person wants to go.
Hypnosis is great for solving recurring problems with couples and this client went away feeling like that problem wasn’t a problem.
That’s how hypnosis solves problems in such a profound way.
If you have a conflict with your partner that seems to be unresolvable,..
Just add hypnosis.
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