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Signs that your relationship may be in trouble according research in neuroscience and Gottman Method Couples Therapy and his research on divorce and what you can do with unresolved conflicts in your relationship, even if your partner isn’t interested in couples therapy.

Unresolvable conflicts and the way they make you feel inside of your relationship…

Research by marriage and divorce expert John Gottman, shows that 2 out of 3 conflicts that you have with your partner are actually unresolvable.

When you’re having those conflicts you don’t know if they’re going to be resolved or not.

This means that for every conflict that you actually do resolve with your partner through communication and listening, understanding, and validating, there’s going to be twice as many conflicts that you won’t be able to resolve at all.

Often these unresolved conflicts create feelings of resentment and when you couple that with what’s happening in the brain from a Neuroscience perspective, you need to resolve these feelings as quickly as possible because they create a literal pathway in your brain.

Your brain detects patterns (there’s a part of your brain called the reticular activating system that ‘s designed to recognize the slightest patterns) and it gets easier to fall into those patterns.

Because the pathway becomes a deep trench that gets easier to fall into and because there’s a sense of security around what is known.

There is sense of certainty around these patterns and it’s better than what’s unknown, so if you continue to have experiencing unresolved conflicts and you keep feeling resentment towards your partner they become habits.

If these feelings of resentment are turning into criticism and they’re met with defensiveness or you’re hearing that criticism from your partner and you’re responding with defensiveness, these are 2 of the 4 signs that your relationship is in trouble. If you’re married, these are signs of divorce.

So if you’re feeling that resentment, you’re hearing the criticism and you’re feeling defensive and your partner isn’t interested in going to couples therapy.

What can you do?

Take care of yourself and your experience in the context of your relationship.

Hypnosis is something that you can do on your own to resolve these feelings of resentment, not feeling appreciated or validated and feeling undervalued.

If you’ve been trying to resolve these feelings with your conscious mind but you haven’t been able for over 30 days, it’s because these conflicts are probably emotionally charged and when you’re emotional you actually lose access to the rational, logical, thinking part of your brain.

That conscious brain uses 7 bits of information to resolve your issues. The brain doesn’t multitask well, studies show that when people think they’re multitasking, they’re actually doing one task at a time and because they’re alternating between tasks, they’re not doing any of those tasks well..

So if you’re trying to resolve your conflicts in an emotional state with your conscious mind and you haven’t been able to resolve these conflicts and they’re still persisting, this is a good time to….

Just add hypnosis.

You can do hypnosis by yourself, for yourself. You don’t need your partner’s buy-in.

Your subconscious has all the answers.

All the resources to resolve your conflicts at the subconscious level.

Ff you haven’t been able to resolve these problems consciously, it’s probably because it needs to be resolved at a subconscious level with your subconscious mind.

Your subconscious mind has been taking in millions of bits of information every second and it has remembered every one of those bits of information. It can use all that information and all its resources to help you resolve your conflict with your partner.

So don’t let those resentments and bad feelings stick around for more than 30 days… You’ve got to do something with those feelings before they become a habit.

Deep trenches cause strong habits that can lead to criticism and defensiveness.

When you’re starting to experience contempt and/or stonewalling (which is totally shutting down or are just needing to get away), this is the signal that it’s time to do something different.

Contempt is the #1 sign of divorce.

Hypnosis can help you access all the resources and the answers that you are available right now. The results you are looking for can be accessed through a resourceful state of hypnosis now.

Let me know if you have any questions and we’ll talk soon