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What happens to your brain when you’re triggered by your partner, what it means and what you can do about it…

Being triggered emotionally

What’s going on from a neuroscience point of view when you experience conflict?

According to Gottman couple therapy, when you experience criticism, defensiveness, contempt which include feelings of superiority; and stonewalling which is emotional flooding and shutting down…

If you have any of these 4 signs, your relationship is in trouble.

These are four signs of the end of a relationship have been called The Four Horsemen by Gottman because they’re signs that the end is near.

What happens when get triggered when you’re experiencing conflict with your partner or maybe even when you’re not experiencing conflict and you’re getting triggered emotionally in a negative way…

What happens in your brain is the next time that you get triggered in the same way or a slightly different way, there’s a part of your brain that picks up patterns, called the Reticular Activating System (RAS).

The RAS picks up on the slightest pattern, so even when you’re being triggered in a slightly different way, your brain actually notices all the similar ways that this conflict is to other conflicts.

If you’ve experienced emotional reactivity, and you’ve been triggered emotionally, the RAS will pair that emotional reaction with that conflict and connect it with all other conflict.

What you might notice is that over time, when you’re feeling the reactivity and you can see that at the conscious level that is it feel similar…

By that time, the behavior of that pattern is so locked in because the part of your brain that picks upon those patterns is mainly subconscious.

These small nuances reinforce patterns of behaviour and reactivity that it picks up at the slightest subconscious level.

So by the time that you notice at the conscious level that the reactivity is a pattern, your brain has already locked in that behaviour.

The reactivity is paired with your response.

If you’re experiencing emotional reactivity you need to do something about it within 30 days so it doesn’t become entrenched in your behaviour.

If you’ve been experiencing emotional reactivity for weeks or months, you really need to do something about it.

When you’re in this emotional state, you can’t think logically. The emotional flooding and the reactivity actually cuts off the pathways to the logical, rational part of your brain.

You lose access to the part of your brain that could work out this conflict, if it was actually resolvable.

But when you’re emotional and you’re experiencing emotional flooding, we often shut down…

We just want to get the hell out of there…

The way you experience conflict has less to do with your partner and more about what you’re experiencing.

That’s why if your partner doesn’t want to go to couples therapy -it’s okay.

You can use your own agency to do something about what you’re experiencing.

It’s your experience.

Hypnosis can help you.

Because anything emotional is subconscious anyway…

Hypnosis can connect you with the subconscious.

The subconscious has massive amounts of information to help you resolve what’s really going on. It has all the answers right now to what you’re experiencing in your relationship.