Accelerated Hypnotherapy – Rapid Results

Let’s take a look at conflict from a neuroscience perspective and see what’s really going on in your brain when you experience conflict.

When you first started having a conflict with your partner, you were probably able to speak about the conflict with some level of logic and rationality, emotional intelligence, and some level of emotional control.

But as you kept having this conflict and you weren’t able to resolve it, you might have felt a tiny bit of resentment because your brain likes things sealed off and tied up in a bow so it can move on to the next thing.

Et voila! You have an open-ended conflict that hasn’t been resolved.

Now, you might notice the next few times that you have this conflict, you started to get a little bit more emotional…

you started to feel more triggered…

you started to feel a little more irritated and frustrated because the conflict didn’t start from zero.

The conflict actually starts from where you left off the last time you had it.

So these conflicts have an additive quality to them. They start to build up, especially if you’re feeling resentment or emotional about whatever the conflict is about.

What’s happening in your brain is that it’s detecting these patterns of conflict and it creates physical pathways in your brain of behavior and emotional response to the experience that you’re having inside of this conflict.

The pathway of neurons are physically connected together in your brain in response to this pattern of conflict.

You might also notice that when you have the conflict, especially if it’s been happening for a while, that the pathway starts to become a trench.

And as soon as you step into that conflict you fall into the trench and into the conflict behaviour. You’re triggered emotionally and you slide into that conflict trance.

By this point, you’ve almost lost all logic and reasoning because you’re so emotionally triggered and this is what happens in the brain when that happens.

When you’re triggered emotionally, you lose access to that part of your brain that is logical and makes really good decisions.

It’s almost impossible to access the logical part of your brain when you’re triggered emotionally inside of conflict.

and so you might have even said to yourself that the next time that this happens you’re going to be calm and do something different. but inside that conflict, the moment you get triggered, you fall into that pattern of conflict and the way you act and feel inside of it.

Even when you’re out of the trench, there’s probably some part of you that is blaming your partner for the way the conflict goes down.. There may be some resentment or criticism inside of this conflict.

The criticism and your partner’s defensiveness are signals to you that that this conflict is toxic to your relationship.

If one of you has contempt and the other gets so emotionally flooded because their emotions are so off the charts that they stop responding. These are four signs that your relationship is in trouble. These are signs of divorce

If you’re experiencing criticism, defensiveness, contempt and stonewalling, don’t let those patterns of conflict go on for more than 30 days. Don’t let your brain get entrenched into those patterns of behaviour and emotions.

If you slide into the conflict trance, it might be time for you to do something about it.

Don’t wait for your partner.

You need to take care of your emotional experience inside of this conflict.

If your partner won’t go to couples therapy with you, you can do something about it on your own.

Hypnosis can do the work for both of you.

Accelerated hypnosis can connect you with all the answers and all the resources that are available to you (right now) in your subconscious mind.

You can’t resolve this conflict with your conscious mind.

You probably can’t resolve this conflict by talking with your partner when you get triggered emotionally, as per usual.

If this conflict could be resolved by your conscious mind by talking about it with your partner, you probably would have solved this conflict ages ago.

Let go of finding the answer with your conscious mind.

The real problem exists at the level below your conscious thinking, at the level of your emotions, at the level of your subconscious mind .

At the subconscious level, there’s always a problem and solution set. They come hand in hand. The problem exists alongside all the solutions to it. It exists with all the resources you need to handle it and solve this problem permanently.

Your subconscious mind doesn’t need your partner to participate

Don’t let your conflicts in your relationship go on for more than 30 days. You need to do something about it so it doesn’t become a neural pathway in your brain. The pattern of behavior will start to bump into other areas of your relationship and start to become a trench that you easily fall into.

If you’ve tried to resolve your persistent conflicts with your conscious mind and you haven’t been able to find that solution…

Connect with your subconscious mind with the problem and solution sets that are there waiting for you right now.

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