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When I found out my ex was cheating, I asked him if he would swear on his kids that he wasn’t cheating.

And, of course, he did.

No problem.

What an easy out for a cheater because the cheater isn’t dealing in the truth, so it’s easy for them to cheat and to lie about that.

About anything.

About everything.

Even though he had sworn on his kid’s lives, it didn’t change how I felt.

If you suspect your partner’s cheating on you, don’t try to get the truth out of them by asking questions…

You’re asking a question of someone who cheats and lies.

Someone who has been cheating and lying right to your face.

The truth comes from paying attention to the person’s actions.

And from questions, like the one that I learned from the book, Never Be Lied to Again by David Lieberman.

If somebody says they were at a certain place, you can make up a scenario and say something like, oh, I heard there was a fire there or I heard there was a fire alarm that went off at that time.

You see how they react because if they were really there and there was a fire alarm, they would say, yeah there was a fire alarm.

If they were there and there wasn’t a fire alarm, they would say, No, I was there, but there wasn’t a fire alarm.

But if they weren’t there, they would have to think about what their answer would be for a while (or maybe they are so good at making things up it will be like second nature to them and they will make things up on the fly…)

I also used another version of this questioning when I knew that my ex was cheating, (I had receipts) I said my friend saw you with a woman…

And I just left it at that.

They admitted to being with two different women.

I was shocked.

One of them, they called their “mentor”, who a day later sent my ex a text with a picture of her and a low cut bathing suit.

I don’t know about you, but I’ve never had a mentor that sends pictures of him in his speedo.

So it just gave me more information that I already had.

But I had receipts, literal receipts from Victoria Secret – he had purchased the same pink lingerie in 3 different sizes for 3 different women.

But you might not have receipts, just a sneaking suspicion that your partner is cheating.

And the biggest answers will come from how you feel.

Won’t come from the cheater.

The biggest answers that you can get won’t come from a lying cheater.

The most important answers that you get won’t come from someone that you suspect is cheating.

The answers will come from you.

If you pay attention to the way that you’re feeling

And if you have feelings of mistrust for this person, just consider that you don’t trust them, whether they’re cheating or not.

The point is not that they are cheating or not because you may never know.

The point is there’s a part of you who isn’t trusting this person.

Take a look at yourself – is that feeling coming from you because of the past, and you don’t really trust anybody, or is it coming from the person because they’ve been doing things that are shady.

If they’re doing things that register to you as shady, this might not be your person.

Take a look at your side of the equation of why would you would want to be with someone who you have these feelings about.

Pay close attention if you just can’t shake these feelings.

I was seeing somebody We were exclusive.

He was going to movies and concerts with women – I just had this feeling when he would tell me. It just felt weird.

I asked him about who he was going with, he said he was going with a friend.

And I asked him a little bit more about it…

I asked where he had met these women.

And he said on the dating site.

WTF?

They had gone out a few times, but he just considered them as a friend.

But as we talked a little bit more, they probably didn’t consider him a friend.

They probably were thinking of him as more than just a friend because he was taking them to movies and concerts.

And he probably didn’t come right out and say, there’s no hope for us ever. I just think of you as a friend.

And he was paying for the dates because he was getting some type of validation.

I could feel all of that when he told me that he was going out with these “friends.”

Through these experiences, I learned to trust in my feelings and to focus on my feelings and ask myself things like,

Are these feelings legit (all feeling are!)? Is this something I need to get more info about?

What’s really going on here?

Are these feelings coming from the past? Is this something I need to resolve and complete so that I can move on without all that baggage, or is the feeling actually coming from my reaction to what the person is doing or saying?

Even though they may be telling the truth there is something about you that doesn’t trust them.

You don’t want to be in a relationship where you are always second guessing the other person. Do you?

All your feelings are legit and have a message for you in them.

My cheating ex would gaslight me And it made me doubt my own feelings because he was so deceptive.

What I learned from these jackwagons is to always honor how I feel.

What about you?

How do you handle feelings that you have about someone you think is cheating or lying?