Have you ever wondered if the therapy you’re getting is really that effective?
Like, you would really like your problem to be over already…
Have you ever been to a therapist for some type of emotional problem that you had to talk through?
And 3/4 of the way through your appointment, it’s finally getting easier to share, you’re getting into the flow of being able to verbalize what you have been feeling…
It isn’t easy. It’s actually kinda painful trying to dig up the past…
You’re just getting to get into expressing how you really feel because you’re just realizing how you’re really feeling.
But time is ticking, you notice that the therapist is starting to wrap up…
Your session is almost over but it feels like you’re just getting started.
You’re not anywhere close to the solution.
You’re left with open wounds from the past, you’re feeling all the trauma you remembered and now the session is over?
WTF?
Or
You’re doing some type of physical therapy, and what they’re telling you to do kinda makes sense, but you’re not feeling that relief that you were looking for.
When you start to ask questions, you get a sense that they don’t want to really give you the answers.
Not today, anyways…
Instead, they suggest that you book in with a different therapist on their team who can help with the specific part of the solution…
How convenient.
For them.
Not you.
or you they tell you that you will deal with those specifics a few weeks down the line.
They already have you on the program, a series of sessions that spread out the treatment, but you’re not really sure if this session has really solved anything, you’re still in pain.
You were really hoping to get more relief from that session.
In both cases, you realize that the model is for the therapist to spread out the solution over time, giving a negligible amount of relief each session, not knowing when the complete solution will be achieved.
It seems to be more about sessions and no really about results.
This has actually happened to me where I had gone to see a physical therapist a number of times, and I asked specific questions about what I could do at home to get to recovery a bit faster.
He knew the answer but hesitated and told me that I needed to book appointments with a different therapist on his team for that part of the solution.
hmmmm…
He could have easily gave me some things to practice at home.
But instead told me to book another appointment…
It was disappointing.
We had time left in that session. There was no reason he couldn’t have given me some things to practice at home to speed up my recovery.
Well, there was a reason to withhold that information – so that I would have to book another session.
It felt like he was withholding information, solutions, therapy, and ultimately healing.
Sessions or Results?
Maybe you’re in some type of treatment where you just don’t understand what’s happening, you’re not sure what you’re actually getting out of treatment.
You’re not sure if what they’re doing is actually working or not because you don’t feel much different at the end of the session.
But you book another appointment anyways, hoping for relief one day.
Besides, they might know more than you and have a bigger picture.
Maybe…
What we’re really looking for
Imagine going to the dentist.
You have a problem with a tooth, it’s sore, and super painful.
You wait a few days to get in to see the dentist, experiencing intense pain.
The dentist does the smallest amount of treatment and asks you to book in again in a few days.
You’re not sure if he’s done anything to fix your tooth.
It hurts like heck.
He appears to be more concerned with spreading the treatment over a number of sessions than giving you relief.
But it’s not his fault – it’s just the treatment plan.
F#&k that!
You want a dentist who can take care of your tooth in a single session.
You want him to do everything in that one session.
You don’t want to have to come back because he half-assed it.
You want to feel totally different at the end of the session.
You want and deserve total relief.
Pain gone.
Now.
If you went to a dentist who tried to get you to sign up for a number of appointments where he would treat your toothache slowly over the next few weeks, you probably wouldn’t go back to him.
You would find someone else who could actually resolve your issue for as efficiently and as quickly as possible in one session.
This is what we expect for physical pain but when it comes to emotional pain, we accept treatment plans that are spread out over months, years even…
We see therapists and rehash our issues over and over every week, not sure if “it’s” working…
If the therapist has the solution, they give it to you as quickly as possible, not spreading it out over time.
In fact, they should offer the minimum optimum service, meaning the optimum fix, the optimum service that you’re looking for in the minimal amount of time rather than looking at stretching that treatment out over as many sessions as possible – where you’re not really sure if the treatment is doing anything because you don’t really feel much different.
The reason you’re not feeling a difference in a big way is because whatever they’re doing is so incremental.
Too tiny for your big problem.
But for many practitioners, the treatment is meant to be spread out over time because it’s the model of treatment.
It’s what we have come to expect.
It’s what we have accepted.
If you have gone for treatment, have you experienced that feeling at the end of the session where you’re just getting started?
Then the therapist says to you, “Okay. Well, our time is almost up. Let’s wrap up, and book your next appointment.”
And you were just getting started….
You’re left with all the open wounds from the past.
You’re left with all those emotions that were dormant but have now been activated through talking about your issue and remembering how bad you felt.
And now you’re left to deal with those feeling on your own because it’s the end of the session.
And so you’re just left with those sh!tty feelings that you’re trying to leave behind.
They weren’t as bad when they were actually repressed because you knew how to suppress them and that was kinda working.
You’re not sure if this is progress.
The focus is not on how effective the treatment or how you’re feeling about the issue now but instead the focus is on continuing treatment…
Results not Sessions
When it comes to your problems, or your inability to let go of the past, reach a goal, live a dream, or fulfill a passion…
Focus on results not sessions.
Find someone who can help you fix your problem all in one go.
Find someone with an accelerated treatment plan where the session isn’t over until you say it’s over.
Find someone who focuses on fixing your problem and confirms that your problem is not a problem anymore at the end of the session…
There will be no need for another session because you’ve actually connected with new resources, new answers, new insights in a deep resourceful state of trance.
And you’ve tested how you feel.
You feel like you are now going be okay in those situations that were problematic or triggering for you in the past.
You can truly say the end of that session that your problem is no longer a problem for you because the insights that you got in hypnosis have expanded your mind.
And when your mind expands, your problems become so small they’re not problems anymore.
Whatever was blocking you isn’t stopping you anymore.
Your problem is no longer a problem.
And then when you finish your session and go back to your life, you now have choices that you didn’t have before because you didn’t know what the solutions were.
Now you have insight.
Now you have options where before you might have had a habit or a fixed way of being/feeling when you encountered that problem.
When I test the original problem at the end of the session, many of my clients can’t remember what the problem was – they have a feeling of lightness and the problem is no longer a problem for them.
It’s amazing!
Because these insights, these feelings, these new choices that you have will make you realize that you’ve come to the end of your session and now it’s just about getting out back into your life and practicing what you learned in the a resourceful state.
New choices.
New experiences.
New life.
Let me know if you’ve been to a practitioner who seems like they are focusing on sessions, not results.

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