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Why understanding how anxiety can affect relationships isn’t quite enough

But let’s start there anyway.

With understanding because it’s a logical place to begin.

Attachment Theory

Attachment theory reveals how early relationships patterns shape our emotional patterns in adulthood. While understanding attachment styles and how anxiety can affect relationships can be helpful, knowledge alone often isn’t enough to resolve the deeply ingrained patterns formed in childhood.

Let’s get some insight into how attachment styles might manifest in relationships and why true healing requires deeper emotional work.

Attachment Styles and How They Show Up

Secure Attachment
People with secure attachment generally feel comfortable with intimacy and independence. In relationships, they:

• Trust their partner and communicate openly.
• Navigate conflict with a sense of safety and resolution.
• Offer support while being receptive to their partner’s needs. Experience: A sense of stability and emotional balance in relationships. You would think that Jesus and Buddha are in this category but notice how they are often pictured alone (see Avoidant Attachment) 🤣 😂

Anxious Attachment
Anxiously attached individuals often fear abandonment and crave reassurance. In relationships, they:

• Feel a constant need for closeness and validation.
• Overanalyze their partner’s behavior, often assuming the worst.
• Experience emotional highs and lows, driven by fear of rejection. Experience: Emotional overwhelm, insecurity, and an endless need for reassurance.

Avoidant Attachment
Avoidantly attached individuals prioritize independence and often struggle with emotional closeness. In relationships, they:

• Distance themselves when intimacy feels overwhelming.
• Avoid vulnerability and suppress their emotional needs.
• Feel suffocated by their partner’s demands for connection. Experience: Discomfort with emotional closeness and a tendency to withdraw.

Fearful-Avoidant (Disorganized) Attachment
This style combines the fears of abandonment from anxious attachment with the fear of intimacy seen in avoidant attachment. In relationships, they:

• Crave connection but fear being hurt.
• Send mixed signals, leading to confusion and frustration for partners.
• React unpredictably, alternating between clinginess and withdrawal.

Experience: Inner conflict, mistrust, and difficulty feeling safe.

Why Understanding Isn’t Enough

While recognizing your attachment style and how anxiety can affect relationships can help you make sense of your experiences and help you identify patterns, it doesn’t automatically lead to change. Here’s why:

Attachment Is Rooted in the Emotional Brain
Attachment patterns are encoded in the limbic system during childhood, a part of the brain responsible for emotion and survival. Logic and understanding, processed by the prefrontal cortex, cannot directly rewrite these emotional patterns. Research in neuroscience shows that emotional memories are stored at a subconscious level, influencing behavior even when we consciously “know better” so you often find yourself stuck in a reactivity and a pattern of behaviour.

Maladaptive Patterns Are Survival Mechanisms
Coping strategies that once protected you as a child can become maladaptive in adult relationships. For example, an anxious attachment style may have developed to maintain closeness to an unreliable caregiver. These patterns are not easily abandoned because deep down they are tied to feelings of safety and survival.

Change Requires Rewiring Emotional Responses
Healing maladaptive attachment patterns involves accessing the subconscious mind where these patterns are stored. Techniques like hypnotherapy engage the emotional brain in a safe therapeutic way, allowing you to process and release unresolved trauma from the past.

Relational Patterns Are Reinforced Through Experience
Unfortunately, understanding attachment theory doesn’t give you the freedom and outcomes you’re looking for. They don’t prepare you to navigate real-world triggers. New, corrective emotional experiences are necessary to build secure attachment behaviors.

From Understanding to Transformation

While knowledge about how anxiety can affect relationships provides a roadmap, transformation requires engaging with the deeper, emotional and subconscious layers of the brain.

Logically, we think we need to engage the analytical mind to get a deeper understanding but in fact, we need to somehow get around it, after we’ve gained some understanding because…

Knowing why doesn’t give you the freedom you’re seeking.

Hypnotherapy is able to bypasses the analytical mind and works directly with the subconscious to release the emotional charge tied to old patterns.

Many of you have tried guided meditation where your conscious mind prevents you from relaxing, you feel resistance to the process….

That’s your conscious mind, overthinking and overanalyzing you right out of a deeper experience.

But that doesn’t mean you won’t ever be able to shake your relationship anxiety, it just means that you need to use your subconscious mind to access deeper healing and transformation.

Your subconscious mind allows for a deeper rewiring of beliefs and behaviors that lead to healthier relationships.

If you’ve ever felt stuck repeating the same relational patterns despite understanding your attachment style, know that real change is possible. but it is going to take more than just understanding attachment styles and how anxiety can affect relationships.

Learning about it hasn’t given you any more access to freedom from maladaptive patterns. It’s because there’s an underlying emotional component to these types of issues that needs to be addressed for true healing to happen so you can be free from the past.

More information doesn’t give you access to the true transformation you’ve been looking for.

Healing requires more than understanding, more than just information.

Accelerated Hypnotherapy is about creating new emotional experiences in a safe space that rewires your nervous system to feel safe and secure.

So you can put the past into the past and start the new year with a fresh slate.