Is Talk Therapy REALLY Helping You?

Have you ever wondered why you’re not gaining the insights you hoped for from talk therapy?

Maybe you’ve been attending sessions for weeks, months, or even years, trying different therapists and modalities, searching for understanding.

Many of my clients come to me with this experience.

Talk therapy can be super helpful.

It allows you to organize your thoughts and, in the process, sometimes uncover unexpected insights.

However, for many of my clients, these incremental insights aren’t enough to gain the profound change they’re seeking.

They’re looking for transformative moments—those leaps that feel like jumping across the Grand Canyon—but instead find themselves disappointed and frustrated.

Talk therapy wasn’t quite enough to get them across the finish line and now they have layers of frustration, disappointment, and even more anxiety around their original issue. This is how unintentional iatrogenic injury occurs as you try to fix your issue but the interventions are making things worse at the emotional level, leaving you feeling a certain way.

What Talk Therapy Provides

A therapist’s role often centers on listening, validating, and paraphrasing what you share. They provide unconditional positive regard, creating a safe space for you to process your experiences.

While this is valuable, it may not always lead to the deep insights or resolution you’re hoping for.

Here’s the thing.

Good therapists stay in their lane. They are only there to provide the listening, validation and paraphrase what you say. The unconditional positive regard is what creates the right conditions for change.

So if you’re expecting your therapist to give you insights, you will be waiting a loooong time.

Months.

Maybe even years.

When it comes down to it

It’s on you to find your own insights.

But here’s some good news.

They’re there already in your subconscious.

Why Understanding Isn’t Enough

Imagine learning to ride a bike by only reading user manuals or watching videos. You might understand the mechanics of balancing, pedaling, and steering, but that understanding doesn’t translate into actually riding the bike.

Some issues are purely logical and can be resolved with this kind of understanding.

But problems with a traumatic or emotional component require more than logic. Emotions are not solved by thinking; they’re felt and processed. Attempting to address an emotional problem through logic alone is like trying to leap across the Grand Canyon without a bridge. The gap is simply too wide.

Accelerated Hypnotherapy offers a different approach.

Rather than relying on logic, it provides an experiential process. During your session, you don’t just learn information about how to ride bike—you actually get on and ride.

This experiential learning creates new neural pathways and offers you more choice after your session.

The Power of Hypnotherapy

In hypnotherapy, I don’t need to hear the details of your problem.

You don’t need to recount traumatic experiences. In fact, it’s often better not to talk about them, as words can’t fully capture the depth of emotions.

Maybe rehashing the details of your trauma over and over is not actually helpful.

Maybe it even making it a bit worse…

This is the unintentional iatrogenic injury that can occur when the original issue is not being resolved but what you’re trying to do to fix things is making the problem more complex.

You’re actually left feeling a little worse from talking about it.

Now, you have anxiety about the anxiety about the experience and wondering why nothing is really working.

Feelings are called feelings for a reason—they’re experienced in the body. They’re hard to put into words, and hard to articulate.

Maybe they’re designed that way for a reason.

Maybe logic can’t fix emotion.

And trying makes worse.

Hypnotherapy gently connects you with those emotions and helps you process them with the guidance of your superconscious mind, which knows exactly what you need to heal.

Some clients come to hypnotherapy still seeking to understand, telling me what I should do.

Hmmm…

I don’t plan the session.

I don’t have a process.

But I do have an idea.

Let’s both follow the lead of the Superconscious and go with it.

Let’s let go of preconceived notions about what you need that haven’t been working already.

Trust your subconscious mind to guide you to what’s truly needed for healing so you can experience resolution of emotional issues in a way that creates real change, and where there’s no risk of iatrogenic injury.

From Logic to Healing

For example, I’ve had clients stuck in cycles of betrayal and mistrust after infidelity. Logically, they understand the situation and why they should move on, but emotionally, they remained somehow tethered.

Hypnotherapy allows you to process those complex emotions and break free from the patterns keeping you stuck.

After hypnotherapy, clients often describe having a newfound sense of choice.

Where there was once only a loop of repetitive thinking and behavior, they now know how to ride a bike if they want to get somewhere else—to take them where they truly desire.

The Risk of Staying Stuck

Sometimes, attempting to solve emotional problems through talk therapy alone can lead to what’s known as iatrogenic injury—unintentional harm caused by the treatment itself.

For instance, you might develop anxiety about why things aren’t working, why the problem isn’t getting fixed, adding another layer of frustration, anxiety, and disappointment to the original issue.

This emotional entanglement can spread its roots into other areas of your life, affecting your work, relationships, and social life. What began as a single issue becomes a complex web of frustration and anxiety.

Maybe time doesn’t heal all.

Maybe things actually get worse the longer the problem persists when you’re trying to fix it.

A New Year, Unlimited Possibilities

As the new year approaches, consider letting go of what hasn’t worked. No more unintentional iatrogenic injuries.

If you’ve tried everything and feel like you’re spinning your wheels, it may be time to find a vehicle to get you to where you want to go.

Hypnotherapy offers the experiential learning and emotional resolution you need to move forward.

It’s the bridge that helps you cross the gap, creating choices aligned with the life you’ve always wanted.