How Does Hypnosis Work to Heal Infidelity & Betrayal Trauma And Trust Issues?

Does time heal all?

Betrayal trauma leaves open wounds that don’t seem to heal with time. Here’s why.

Infidelity and betrayal trauma overwhelms your brain. When you find out that someone you trust has been lying or cheating, your brain registers it as danger. Your body reacts. You may feel numb, anxious, or triggered AF.

Betrayal Trauma Symptoms

You might have trouble sleeping or thinking clearly because the pre-frontal cortex, the logical area of the brain that makes executive decisions goes offline. These are all trauma symptoms. Even though the event is over, your nervous system stays on high alert.

That’s because trauma gets stuck in the present tense, it is not processed into the past tense like other memories—your body holds it in the here and now. Your brain hasn’t filed it away as “over.” That’s why you experience intrusive thoughts that lead to rumination and the trauma can still feel the betrayal like it just happened.

What About Trust Issues?

Trust issues are about present moment but can be affected by past betrayal. You may want to move on, but your system won’t let you feel safe. Your mind tries to protect you by staying suspicious or guarded. Even in a new relationship, it’s hard to fully open up and feel safe enough to trust.

You may not know someone is trustworthy or not, but your brain and body are stuck in the past. It’snot something you can logic your way through with talk therapy.

Why Talk Therapy Can’t Fix Trauma

When most people think about healing, they think about talking it through, with a therapist, friends, family, or anyone who will listen.

Talking seems helpful but with trauma, it can actually make things worse. This is called the iatrogenic effect—when the very thing meant to help unintentionally ends up causing more harm.

The brain and body treat trauma memories like they’re happening right now. That’s why when individuals talk about their trauma, they end up feeling triggered AF. But because talking is what we know, we keep talking about our trauma and keep going back to talk therapy—hoping for relief that doesn’t come.

Who said remembering is recovering?

No one.

Not with trauma.

People go to therapy to gain insight and figure things out. That makes sense. But when it comes to trauma, logic is like a mouse running around on the back of an elephant. The mouse thinks it’s making progress as it goes from the head to the tail, but the elephant—your emotions —is heading somewhere else entirely, in the direction of your past.

How Hypnosis Helps

Hypnosis helps your brain focus on the trauma without needing to talk about it so it can feel safe enough to do the work that it already knows how to do. It just needs a focused state that quiets the noise and helps your system shift. Because you’re so triggered and stuck in the trauma, you might need help with that. Clients find me when they’ve been stuck in trauma for months, sometimes years.

Accelerated Hypnotherapy can connect with your subconscious to access the stuck trauma responses, at the level where it exists and work directly with hopelessness, fear, anxiety, and distrust.

You don’t have to re-live the betrayal. You don’t have to retell the painful and personal details. Your subconscious knows exactly what to focus on to help your brain process what happened so it realizes that the experience is in the past tense and you can learn to trust again.

Accelerated Hypnotherapy for Betrayal Trauma

helps settle your nervous system
helps your brain file the trauma in the past
reduces triggers and body reactions
reconnects you to your sense of self, hope, and safety

Hypnosis for Trust Issues

helps update your nervous system to match what’s actually happening in the present moment
calms the part of your brain that’s stuck in fear and hurt
builds inner safety so you can sense who to trust
supports healthy boundaries and clearer thinking

What Healing Might Feel Like

You may notice fewer triggers. You may sleep better. You may feel less triggered, guarded, and more like yourself. The betrayal feels like it is in the past so you can enjoy the present moment and take back your future.

Trust takes time, but hypnosis helps rebuild trust and safety, from the inside out. Not just with your partner or the new person you’re seeing—because it starts with trusting yourself.

You don’t have to carry it all. You don’t have to stay stuck between past pain and present fear. Accelerated Hypnotherapy can help you move through both.

Let’s connect.