Cheaters, Hypnosis & the Freedom to Choose

Being with a cheater really makes you question yourself.

You might not be sure that they’re cheating but things aren’t add up.

There are things that just don’t make sense.

When you ask about these things that don’t make sense, you get an answer that feels like a brush off mixed with a bit of gaslighting.

Things get twisted around so that you feel stupid for even asking.

This is intentional negative reinforcement of questioning in an attempt to get you to stop crushing their groove, or grooves as it was in his case.

Then there’s those feelings, those pesky feelings, that keep coming back to the surface, even when you get that occasional answer that makes sense when most of them don’t.

You still have this feeling that keeps popping up despite your best efforts to suppress it for the sake of the relationship.

So I started a secret relationship of my own…

A new relationship with my intuition and subconscious mind.

Last Christmas

The cheater had given me lingerie for Xmas but I wanted a warm, fluffy robe and fuzzy slippers.

So I was asked my subconscious to help me find the receipt because he would get mad when I wanted to return things. I was about to find out why…

I looked in the obvious places in the kitchen, near his desk, but couldn’t find the receipt.

As I was walking through his hallway, my intuition said “Stop! Look up.”

So I looked up.

My intuition said, “See that box?”

Yes, it was up high on a shelf, outside my conscious awareness.

“Bring it down here,” my intuition directed.

Jackpot!

It was a box of receipts.

And a few receipts deep, I saw a little pink receipt for my lingerie.

I took a picture of it and put the box away.

When I had a moment to take a look, the receipt had the same pink lingerie he had gave me in three different sizes, a small (for me), an extra small, and a large.

My first reaction was disbelief.

For a minute I wanted to believe that he had made a mistake ordering online but then it was just like in the movies, and all these scenes flashed in front of me.

The montage showed me all the things that added up to him cheating.

Now, for the first time, everything made sense.

I just had one last question.

He had gone away for a week and during that week, I asked my subconscious to show me everything I needed to know.

And boy it showed me a lot.

Everything I had missed.

Everything made perfect sense to me now.

When he came back, I asked him the most important question I had ever asked.

“Where did all the other lingerie go?”

“I don’t know,” he said.

That was all I needed to hear.

His answer confirmed the relationship was over.

Well, it wasn’t really a relationship anyway because it was based on lies.

He wasn’t capable of telling the truth, even when he was cornered with it. He still continued to lie. He couldn’t come clean.

He made it easy for me to leave.

Bring on the pain

Then came the pain. Confusing and intense.

A complete mindf*ck of emotions; feeling the loss of something but not quite sure what it was exactly.

Feeling the loss of a lie. All the emotional pain for something that never was.

So I got therapy, sometimes twice a week because I felt so much anxiety.

I started the grieving process, feeling sadness for a loss of what I thought it was, grief, anger that he wasted so much of my time, fear that I might never find anyone.

But I didn’t want to wait around 600 sessions and have a 38% recovery rate (see image below)

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And when I did as much processing as humanly possible and was ready to move on, hypnosis helped me me let go completely so my past wouldn’t affect my future and the possibilities of having a healthy, loving, connected relationship.

I got hypnosis to make sure that all the emotional ties were completely severed. It accelerated and tied off all the processing that I was doing on my own.

The memories were still there but the feelings were neutralized. There was no sting left when I thought of the cheater.

There was nothing left.

Except what I had learned by listening to my feelings.

I was able to take the lessons with me and leave the pain and the paranoia in the past.

Hypnosis helps you let go so you don’t have be a prisoner of a past relationship.

Even if you’ve been through a painful breakup, hypnosis gives you the freedom to choose your future.

The past can only hurt you if you let it.

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