Time doesn’t heal all wounds

You’ve heard it before: just give it time. But if you’ve been through trauma, you have experienced first hand that time alone does NOT fix it. Most likely, it is getting worse, and more complex the more time passes.

That’s because trauma isn’t stored like other memory. When you’ve experiencing an overwhelming traumatic event, you’re brain becomes overwhelmed and cannot process the experience. The brain drops the ball, and memory shatters into fragments before it can be filed it away,

They are stored subconsciously, in the body, in the nervous system, and in the present tense.

Trauma lives in present tense

These fragments of the trauma stay in the present moment and pop up randomly as intrusive thoughts and intense feelings in your body. They are experienced in the present tense, as if they are happening now.

You’re triggered AF so when something reminds your body or brain of the trauma—even slightly—it will also re-experience the trauma like it’s happening all over again.

Talking about trauma makes it worse

Your heart races, your chest tightens, your mind floods with panic. You’re reliving it by remembering. This is why talking about trauma makes it worse.

But talking is what we know so we seek traditional therapy and talk to our friends, family, anyone who will listen but it doesn’t help because this also revivifies the experience. This is an iatrogenic effect of talking about trauma, what we are doing to try to fix it, unintentionally makes it worse.

You can’t think your way out

No amount of logic can override how your body responds. That’s why you feel stuck AF and are feeling hopeless because you keep reacting to something that happened years ago.

Your brain and body haven’t caught up to the fact that you survived it and it just doesn’t make sense because we think time should heal all wounds.

Why this happens

The trauma response bypasses your logical, thinking brain and lives in the survival part of your nervous system. this is a non-verbal part of the brain, which is why talking about trauma doesn’t help resolve it

Trauma keeps you on alert because trauma is stuck in the emotional, reactive part of your brain. It’s not integrated with the logical part of your brain that knows the danger is over.

That’s why logic, time, talk therapy aren’t enough—none of that makes a difference to the part of you that still feels unsafe.

What actually helps

Healing trauma means helping your body and brain feel safe again in the here and now.

Therapies that work with the nervous system—like Accelerated Hypnotherapy and OEI therapy—can help rewire those patterns, even if you’ve tried everything, talk therapy, EMDR but nothing has worked.

Use this time to finally do something that does works.

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